A Joyful Stepfamily Life

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This is the 8th article in the series “Beliefs of successful people” on the effects of divorce blog. If you have not read the first seven entries yet, I invite you to do so first. These beliefs are not necessarily the truth; I only invite you to try them on, and see what happens if you act as if they were true. You don’t have to believe in them! After we have suffered the effects of divorce, this is one very important step, so just go with me:

“There is always another option”

That sounds funny, doesn’t it? I will make it even stronger: “Each experience can be described in at least three total different ways”. And one step further: “The story is always worse than the reality”.

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A story I read in a book the other day (I can’t remember the name of the book, it was a hilarious novel):
“How do you mean, with a long haired girl in a restaurant?”

Judy had been shocked, devastated, sad, mad, and everything at the same time. One of her friends had phoned her, to tell her she had seen Judy’s husband sitting in an expensive restaurant with a woman with long hair.

Judy decided she was not going to say anything, she was just going to win her husband back. She went to the hairdresser’s to have a new hairstyle, she went to the beauty salon, she bought herself new clothes. Every night when her husband came home, she waited for him with a smile and a nice dinner ready, and every night she would dress a sexy night set.

Her husband gave her compliments, he noticed and was happy with the new Judy.

Judy thought she was slowly getting her way, and one night he invited her out for dinner.

When they were sat at the table of the restaurant, he looked her in the eyes, and said

“I’ve got to tell you something, darling”

Judy froze.

“My boss gave me a payraise. We have had great trouble in the company, and I offered to help. You noticed that I had a couple of nights that I had to work, and I managed to reach an agreement with all parties. Sometimes that even meant taking them out for dinner or for lunch, and one of the people involved was particularly difficult. She is a good-looking blonde lady, but, phew, what a character…”

Judy started to laugh. Her husband looked puzzled as tears streamed down her face. She shook in her chair, and when she managed to speak, he only could say “Oh, I love you so much…”
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Anyway, back to our assumption. This little story makes clear that

1. The story is always worse than the reality

2. There is no such thing as “The Truth”

3. There are always more ways to describe a certain experience.

What stories in your life would change color if you would tell them from the other person’s perspective? Don’t be afraid to counter the effects of your divorce, if you still suffer from them (and who doesn’t?)