A Joyful Stepfamily Life

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There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries.. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health.. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Being Offended. In order to truly be a master of this art, one must be able to see that every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date.. In other words, the majority of people in our world say and do what they do from their own set of fears, conclusions, defenses and attempts to survive.. Most of it, even when aimed directly at us, has nothing to do with us. Usually, it has more to do with all the other times, and in particular the first few times, that this person experienced a similar situation, usually when they were young..

Yes, this is psycho dynamic.. But let’s face it, we live in a world where psycho dynamics are what make the world go around. An individual who wishes to live successfully in the world as a spiritual person really needs to understand that psychology is as spiritual as prayer.. In fact, the word psychology literally means the study of the soul..

All of that said, almost nothing is personal.. Even with our closest loved ones, our beloved partners, our children and our friends.. We are all swimming in the projections and filters of each other’s life experiences and often we are just the stand-ins, the chess pieces of life to which our loved ones have their own built-in reactions.. This is not to dehumanize life or take away the intimacy from our relationships, but mainly for us to know that almost every time we get offended, we are actually just in a misunderstanding.. A true embodiment of this idea actually allows for more intimacy and less suffering throughout all of our relationships.. When we know that we are just the one who happens to be standing in the right place at the right psycho dynamic time for someone to say or do what they are doing—we don’t have to take life personally.. If it weren’t us, it would likely be someone else..

This frees us to be a little more detached from the reactions of people around us.. How often do we react to a statement of another by being offended rather than seeing that the other might actually be hurting? Read the rest of this entry »

This movie will make you cry..
It is so good for us all to see, watch it together with your children, and tell us about it.
It is part of the teenage challenge.
This is one of those rare movies which makes your life change in a couple of minutes!

Hey Terri!

I have been a bit off the net lately (my telephone line broke in the high wind) - but it seems I’m back now

You know, the funny thing is that I really have to think hard about your question of how I did get up and moving again.
I guess it all started with the decision that I was going to take control over my own life, and I was the only one responsible for my own happiness.
Then I looked a bit more in this Law of Attraction stuff - “Thoughts become things” and “Like attracts like”.

I realised that I had been creating my reality, and that I had to change if I wanted to change my reality.

So I first decided to start to learn to become happy with me.
That as hard enough anyway

Then I realised what I was actually thinking all day long - not a very pretty sight! I started to meditate, and at the same time I forced myself to become aware of what was going on in my head. I learned a trick to change those negative thoughts into empowering thoughts, and funny enough, from that moment my external world started to shift.

By the time that I was really 100% happy with myself and my own life, I suppose I was at the same time a very attractive woman (although not exteremly goodlooking LOL). SO my partner saw this radiant, happy “girl”, and of course he was attracted to me
I did not want him: he looked rather worried and “old”, so he had to prove himself for 6 months before I even talked to him other than about work!

Anyway, he turned out to be a very stable, easy going, reliable, loving partner, who really supports me in my wild plans and unstoppable energy.

So, it all kind of falls together now.

Anyway, that was my story.
How does your inner world look like?

Hugs

Charlotte